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Originally Posted by sweepy62
hi i been in therapy a year my t is very good, last week we were on a sensitive subject i went into a mini tantrum because after what i told her, i wanted her to tell me i was a horrible kid for doing it and i wanted her to be judgemental
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I don't disagree that it is transference and the previous posts have done an excellent job of explaining it. This piece, though, reminds me of something I used to do with my T, which is asking him to collude with me in labeling myself as bad. He repeatedly refused to agree with me that I was bad, which really pissed me off. Not too long ago, he and I talked about how frustrating it was for me when he did this. But it was also so healing for me and it really helped set me on the path towards self acceptance and interrupted my automatic desire to beat myself up all the time.
There is a thread I started that describes one of these incidents:
http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=196339
Anne