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I think the "good" it does is when it eliminates the wonder of "what if I could talk to him". You are no longer left wondering what they would say, you're no longer left wondering if they show any remorse in what they do. It helps you to kind of get a small ounce of closure, although not even close to enough to heal, but it would probably also help you to see that this person was a monster or a person who also was in pain at the time. That does make a little difference.
I've had abusers that were just monsters and abusers that were products of their environment. It's my belief that if at some point they learn that what they are doing is wrong and they stop doing that wrong, that they were just products of their environment, but if they carry it out and live their whole lives as that, they are monsters. There is a thin line but it's there somewhere and asking questions will tell you where they sit on that line. Don't know how much it would matter in general, really it's probably different with each person and their experiences
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