I can feel you're struggling with this ocd5mom. When I was 5 I clearly remember having incredible anxiety about going to school. I would cry for days but I still had to go and I used to have panic attacks as a child but I never told anyone. I know its hard to let go and see your child stressed out. Has she been see by a child psychologist and if so, what does he/she say? Schools are trained today to accommodate all kinds of special needs children. Children also pick up on their parents emotions and are keen on knowing how far they can go.

If you look at any info on fears and phobias, it suggests confronting fears. If a mom takes her child to school on the first day and the child cries - it doesn't help for the mom to stay with the child or prolong the good bye. Ask her attending physician if sending her to school is the best option. Do you struggle with anxiety too?