Hello, I am new to this board. I have been with my boyfriend for about 3.5 years. We have live together for 2.5 years. over the course of this time we have lived together, my boyfriend has grown increasingly abusive. Its gotten bad and then as usual, he has made ammends and treats me like a queen again and loves on me and sucks me back in, only to now has become so insecure and freaks over my phone, who I talk to, where I go. I have been recently layed off and am desperately looking for work. I am a great people person and try to keep my business contacts. Because some of these people are men, he is threatened by that. I found myself lying about the small things because he gets so mad at everything. He caught me in a stupid lie and said he is leaving me. Now, I feel like I got used up and now hes moving on. I dont like who I have become. Not at all. I am ashamed and feel very stuck financially.