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Originally Posted by VenusHalley
It might be good idea to consider ending this relationship. He seems very controlling and loves to use your bipolar as a weapon against you........... your mental quirks do not make you less of a human and from what I read here, you are not trying to use it as get-out-of-life-free card and you are trying your best...
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Couldn't agree more.
On next post, you say you're determined to make the marriage work, and I can appreciate that, but here's the thing... It takes two. And he's putting it all on you. Setting all the parameters, making all the "rules" -- he's
overseeing it, not
participating in it. Hope I'm not being too blunt here, but it sounds like he doesn't even treat you like an adult, let alone a wife.
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Originally Posted by tnlibrarian
I don't know what's up with him. He seems to suddenly have a jealous streak. We were sitting in traffic and he got mad because a guy was looking at me. Seriously? The only man he seems comfortable with me being around to any extent is our priest. I know he's not having an affair so that's not a concern. All of this started when I got out of grad school. A friend told me that he's afraid to let go of the control he's had while I've been a stay at home mom and he's afraid I'll meet somebody at work. I'm determined to make my marriage work but still--this is getting ridiculous and really infuriating. If that's the problem he needs to get over it and fast.
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See above. I think your friend is right. And as for that he is afraid you'll meet someone at work... If that's not it, it'll be something else. Or something else. Or something else. The one thing it somehow will never be is him. It's a no-win.
I'm not necessarily saying that someone
can't overcome this behavior, but they would really have to
want to. They'd also have to thoroughly understand that it's not a matter of them playing the role of some kind of beneficent being who now deigns to bestow "giving in to make nice" gestures on individual issues, but changing the entire dynamic the creates this overarching unacceptable pattern of behavior.
(Hope I don't overstep... I'm working 3rd graveyard shift in a row tonight, my head is a mess and I really probably shouldn't be posting at all(!))