((((Courier-of-Life)))))
Don't worry about anyone at PC hurting you, the group of members here are so incredibly supportive, this is a wonderful support site. Don't worry about asking for advice and having this thread of conversation going, we are truely here to offer support and listen ok?

First I want to compliment you on your courtesy and you truely express that your intelligent in the way you express yourself, keep up with your education, that is truely your way out. And if you get to feeling low, remember the President himself was pretty much abandoned by his parents and his father had issues as well. So think about the fact that you can still accomplish much in your life despite what your parents lack. I think that you show that you truely WANT to take care of yourself and move forward in your life and you ARE reaching out, keep doing that.

Ok, so the school is not helping you. I think that you should find a local Ala-non group that meets somewhere near you. You can go to local churches as many of these meetings take place in churches. If you don't know what ala-non is, it is a support group of people who struggle with a parent or family member that are alcoholics/drug addicts. It is a good place to start as there may be someone you can connect with that can truely offer some ideas in how you can perhaps find better ways to help yourself.

If you can find a local group that meets somewhere, go, and don't be shy, everyone there has a struggle with dealing with an addict of somekind so they all know how hard it is. If you get to know the members that are in these groups someone may very well have some more ideas and you can probably find someone who can give you rides to these meetings so you can get the support you need when it comes to finding a way to deal with your father.

Ofcourse you love your father, however your also smart enough to understand that he truely has a disease and you truely don't have the capacity to control him, or his disease and I am sure that you are aware that he is often incoherant because of his disease. I don't think that a talk with your father will make much of a difference in his actions, he has been doing this for so long and most likely this disease has simply overpowered his reasoning of the reality of his situation and yours as well.

I know Caretaker Leo is correct, and I also know she has tried and truely loves her son, wants to help him, be a good parent and it truely isn't easy for her to say what she said about the fact that most likely the only thing left is to let him suffer the consequences of jail to finally get help and learn that what he is doing is going to cost him. It is hard lesson to learn that alcoholics/addicts will lie, cheat and use anyone they can to cover for them while they remain addicts. And they DO take hostages and don't seem to care, addiction is that strong.

And as far as your father's possessions, well, often an alcoholic has to simply lose everything, hit bottom before they eventually realize they need help. Your not old enough to own that home and make a living to keep his stuff. You have to take care of YOU. No, it isn't easy to let go, but as Caretaker realizes herself, sometimes that is the only way.

So, try to find a local meeting and get yourself there and ask around and see if you can find other ways of getting help that the dummies at school don't seem to know.
And being with others that truely know what it is like to be around a family member with these issues will at the very least help you get much needed psychological support as well.

Let me know how you make out. I will keep you in my prayers.

Open Eyes