Thank you for the feedback. I have noticed a correlation between his anxiety and stress levels and the decline in our sex life, so I agree that the porn is probably not the contributing factor (it was probably there the entire relationship; I just never looked). It's good to have some reassurance in that area from folks on this site though.

MK1974, the part of the equation that may be my fault is that I see the business situation more clearly from the outside and have probably left him feeling as if he's screwing up. I don't know that he's at fault, per se, but I would definitely have handled stuff differently (mostly by being tougher with the partner). I've probably made him feel emasculated a bit (because he's very forgiving let's a lot of stuff just slide by), but I'm only trying to be helpful. I'm about five years older and work in the legal field. I don't weigh in the day to day running of the business, but I've become concerned about him protecting himself legally if the business were to go into bankruptcy. So, I may have become less girlfriend and more "advisor." I'm aware that this probably makes me less sexually appealing to him (dare I even say less feminine), but I'm so concerned that he's not protecting himself that I find it impossible to not be straight with him on some of the legal and tax issues involved.

I've tried to stay quiet and just provide support...but then I see some glaring issue that could spell out trouble down the road and I just go into "advisor" mode. Any advice for me on how I can help him but still make him feel good about himself?