"thanks" didn't quite cover it for me. A hug seems a more appropriate response.
I didn't post a comment to you 3rd times because you said this >> Most of all, the talking out loud takes its power or it punch away, and I feel like a part of me has returned to me, that in the telling I have made whatever shame or blame or yuckiness or other bad feelings attach to the perpetrator, and back off from me. .

and I didn't find it to be so, I wish I did (although I am very happy to hear that this is how it was for you). I told my story in the face of fear, regardless of whether I felt "safe enough", and although I still have my shame, my self blame, my yuckiness, at least at the end of telling it I felt release in the sense that, whew, I never have to do that again -

but I have found out that when you change Ts, you do have to tell it again, and what that is going to be like I have no idea.

My T (T1) also said, I will not reject you or judge you, or leave you... I don't think she rejected me for what I told her, I have no way of knowing whether she judged me, but in the end, she left me all right.

I guess I don't know when "safe enough" can be. Maybe "safe enough" is when we just keep going, for the sake of healing, trusting in the process, and in the T as far as we can, even if it's not very far.

Mykidsarecool - many hugs to you in this difficult work.