Hi patricia!

Is she given any sort of allowance? Or do you give her money when she asks for it or various amounts at different times?

A person of that age should have already (or at least started to) learned how to manage money. If she spends it on something else (do you really think she spent it on pot? If so, you might want to think up something to do about that) then TOO BAD.

As for a punishment, (especially when it was revolving around money) my mother would NOT give us any money (my 2 sisters or me/I?) until she felt we had learned a lesson. This of course wouldn't apply if it was for something actually important.

Or, if the money you give isn't an allowance where she has to work for it, you could implement a working allowance. She has to do work, and she can get money for it.

This still doesn't solve her disrespecting you though. For that, grounding usually seems to work.

What sort of punishments have you used before? Switching from one that you normally used to another one is never a good idea, especially with a teen. (Hey, I'm still there... I consider myself still to be a teen at 19).

Hope this helps and I hope you can find some way to resolve this problem with your daughter soon!