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Originally Posted by skeksi
Ugh, I hate those sessions where I am so busying controlling the panic that I can't actually "accomplish" anything. T always says, why do we have to accomplish anything? Maybe this is what you need to do today, sit with the panic.
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Ha! Yeah - my T says the same thing. I guess I feel like if I'm paying for the hour, I should do something more than sit there in silence or panic. My T has told me many times that the hour is mine to do with as I need to, be that talk, panic, sleep, make difficult phone calls, whatever. I have a hard time with that, though.
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Originally Posted by karebear1
"You did not waste your time or T's time. Even though you were unable to speak you were building a bond between you and T. To be able to sit in a room panicking and dissociating in front of someone takes a lot of courage and trust. T knows that, and appreciates that you were there and didn't leave despite how you were feeling."
Can you ask T to help ground you when she sees this??
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You're right, of course, but it still feels unproductive to me. I'm finally learning to tell my T when I start checking out and she's good about helping to ground me if she thinks I need it. I did at one point tell her that all I wanted was to leave, but I wouldn't. She told me that while she hoped I wouldn't leave, she would never stop me from doing so. My T really is awesome, I just wish I wasn't so pathetic at times.