Hi,
I'm in a relationship and scared to leave.
I've known my girlfriend since we were both 15. We are now 42. We have a son together that is 15 months old. She has two children of her own from a previous marriage. Samantha(17) Ryan(12).
Our son is Ray Ray. The problem stems from her daughter who can do no wrong. Besides the stealing from our bank accounts and the constant lying, there is the abuse and bullying she engages in. Heres some examples.
Sam was on her way in the shower, Ryan changes the channel on the TV. She hears it, runs out and litterly beats the heck out of him. Pins him on his stomach, and left 34 rip marks on his back and 4 bite marks which broke the skin and bled. The mother called it sibbling rivalry. I actually took pictures of the marks and put them on a flash drive but the mother took it and hid it from mesaying no one needs o know anything. Sam didn't even get repremanded for what she did. She has no remorse for what she does. When we brought Ray Ray home for the first time, she actually snuck in our room that day and tried to stick her breast at him and her excuse was, he started crying. She's grabbed him like a rag doll by his tiny wrist and when he screamed she would drop him.
This girl has become a terror in the home and I fear for my sons safety.
the mother says its fine, its just a phase.
One day 3 mothers of 11 and 12 year old boys came banging down our door. Apparently sam was letting them molest her so she could use their phones. Sam denied it and her mother believed her. I tried to explain that I don't think 3 different mothers would make something like that up. She freaked on me and said if I continued she would take my son away. Sam doesn't lie she said..
One day I got a phone call from a concerned parent. "Samantha has posted a picture of her breasts and crotch on facebook. I showed her mother, and sam denied it, said someone else did via photoshop. Her mother believed her even though they were posted from her account.
so I installed Norton parent on her laptop. Her favorite sites were:
How to lie and not get caught
How to get rid of your mother boyfriend
What people look for when you lying
I printed out the pages and showed her mother. Big mistake. Sam denied it and I got cursed for showing her the proof of sams lies.
Sam now runs the house. Bullies her brother and mother. Tries to bully me and when I tell her to knock it off, I get attacked by the mother. She even picks on Ray Ray. When he trust to get somewhere, she blocks him til he crys. God forbid I say something cause then the daughter tells mommy and I get screamed at by her. Ryan is so afraid, if a cabinet door slams shut he jumps.
I think her mother gets so upset that her daughteris like this that she barely eats now and says things like sam never does anything wrong, you and Ryan just don't like her.
My girlfriend told me yesterday that I have to like her daughter, my feelings don't matter and if I say anther word, she will take Ray Ray away from me and I will never see him again...
There is sooo much more. The verbal and mental abuse alone has made me scared to leave. I live in fear for myself and my son. We are the last two from our family (my side).
no where to go for help and no where to go to seek safety from them.
I'm afraid that the longer we're there, he might think that its okay to act that way and do those things