Thank you for the advice and responce canders7
She gets a weekly allowance....well, lately she hasn't been doing her chores so her allowance gets cut.
Normally I punish her by not letting her go out....
It drives her crazy, she says she can't stand being alone, plus she is popular and always goes out with her gangs.... when she can't party with her gangs she freaks out.
The disrespect thing is something that she is really up and down with.... she has been trying to be more respective but she still blows up at times like thismorning.... when this happens she appologises and thinks that makes everything ok. I keep trying to get through to her that it is good to appologise but it doesn't make it ok.
It's great getting advice from you.... at 19 you have a better perspective.....things are so different from when I was a teen and I'm only 33.
Thank you and hope you are well

Patricia xx