I think it was good you went and survived. For what little it means, I explode when the t misunderstands like yours did at the end. And the whole not pushing away thing too. If they are going to tell one not to do it, I think they need to have a plan to help the person not do it. I might even agree some(maybe, perhaps, not really going to commit to this completely) with the idea and yet have absolutely no idea how to go about it.