I can see why you are angry. I would be angry if my husband used my illness as his excuse to get out of things he doesn't want to do. Marriage is hard work and both of you have to work at it. Therapy can help but only if he's willing. We people withbipolar disorder are hard to live with. Your husband needs to learn that your illness does not define you. And you are right these days things are a lot different in the way mental illness is treated ( thank God). Marriage is supposed to be an equal partnership. If he listens to you, give him the chance to move forward with a new attitude.