((raymond))

It sounds as though you already know that you want to get the heck out of the house, with your son, Ray Ray. Are you looking for ideas on how to leave or simple support?

Has your gf's daughter been this scary throughout your relationship, or is this behavior pretty new? Have you talked with your gf before Ray Ray was born? Have you tried going into counseling, individually or family-style?

The situation doesn't sound healthy, no. But that doesn't mean that things can't be made more healthy.

I'd certainly recommend that you try counseling first. Individual and family style could help. Ryan is young and very impressionable too. Sure would help him to show that you care about him and his safety too. Samantha is 17. Her brain is still growing, changing. Hopefully, you can work towards finding the reasoning of her bad behavior and work together to turn things around. That takes some time, yes, and it takes commitment. But it's a lot more healthy for everyone to work at fixing things together, rather than giving up.

Think about the situation in that new light. IMO, people no longer work as hard as it takes to build strong and responsible communities. Very best wishes to you and your family!