Ooooh Improving - thanks

take this >> Am a bit surprised that he took you saying you'd never call as you threatening to end therapy.
combined with this
>> I understand about feeling ambivalent about whether you want to stop pushing T away.

and suddenly I saw it in a new light. Pbutton, could it be that yr T was trying to clarify in your mind that you DO want to continue (to resove your ambivalence) by presenting the worst case scenario. I have had that technique (sorry but that was what it was in my case) used on me maybe twice. I don't actually see this as manipulation, more as an assist to me so I can make up my mind for myself. just thinkin...