Well said Open Eyes!
Yes, alcoholics are very, very good at blaming everyone and everything else for their misery. They absolutely can't accept and believe that they are the ones causing their own troubles by the choices they are making. I, too started to believe that it was my fault for all of the troubles caused by an alcoholic in my life. Only after I started going to Al-Anon did I begin to understand that none of it was my fault.
Samuel - really think long and hard about going back tomorrow. Perhaps try talking to the family who you are staying with and asking for their advice.
We will continue to be here for you.