I agree with the posters above, Claytv6633.

Just curious about your last remark though. "It (the behavior of the cheating ex's) makes me see why guys look at other types of relationships."

Are you referring to purely sexual relationships? That is a possibility. However, I assume that you aren't interested in "Wham, bam, thank you ma'am" style.

The problem, I believe, lies in the type of woman you're attracting. Men and women will say whatever they believe is necessary to get what they want ~ it occurs in both sexes. You have to take things more slowly. More cautiously. Watch what the women say & do. If they say one thing, but behave another way put up a flag to watch out. Watch yourself too, because we can unknowingly be putting off signals that confuse others.

Best wishes!