I think I understand what you mean that the feelings don't go away just because they are out in the open. My T knows very well what my feelings are for her, but that doesn't help me to deal with them. It's almost like "so what, now that she knows". I'm still struggling with them just the same as ever. I still have to try to get needs met by others, in RL.

It's painful. Telling your T is step 1, and I agree that it's important. But then the real work starts, the "what am I going to do so I can feel this way about others who can return my feelings?" At the same time, it's okay to feel good about the relationship with your T. For me, it's finding that middle ground that's the problem.