Ok, I'll be the one to elaborate about safety and donating. This has been the elephant in the room, something that is difficult to address here at PC.

It can happen to any of us. The hype, the need, the desire to be part of a group, the desire to help someone, the hope for change for someone (even though it might not be held for oneself.) It is so easy to become caught up in the excitement, or the urgency... and then when we see someone else..or another who is also contributing, we feel safer in doing so, too.

For me, I didn't really know sleeps at all. I tried PMing her for even a little bit more of information, and was summarily dismissed. I decided not to give what I was able, but only a token contribution. Even that, due to my life events (IRL) was not formulated.

Do I feel "glad" I didn't contribute monetarily? No. I felt bad at the time, but that still small voice inside had prevented me. Wasn't anything personal... not with sleeps... but I have made decisions about things.. and when I don't have enough information, and am unable to obtain enough information to make an educated decision changing the status quo, then I don't do it.

I hope each person will take time before jumping on the bandwagon. If you feel you are making a good decision, that's all you can do, imo. (No matter which way you decide, in the future.) Make sure it's an educated one.

It would be nice, and much easier to allow for "compassion" for sleeps if she were to return the money to PC, so it may be used for other members who are so needy, also. IDK her circumstances, as I said, but I do agree that it was not the usual way to show appreciation ... and gives a knot in the stomach on top of the one for the poor actions she took, imo.