I am a victim of PTSD and the man I recently started dating is also.We both experienced different trauma.He is an ex marine and I am a victim of sexual assault.It's moderate PTSD for the both of us.We can relate because we both are faced with some of the same struggles, but he seems to be having more trouble adjusting to dating me.We actually haven't even established what we are.I tell him we are going with the flow.It's too soon to tell, but he has already twice stated that he is not good with relationships and probably will never be able to give me one.His actions state something totally different.He treats me so well.When we're together it's as if we're in a relationship without the title.I feel he is guarded and this past week was difficult because he brought up the topic again.I told him it was too soon to discuss serious topics and we're still getting to know eachother.I like the pace we are moving at.We give eachother space, but we still spend time together.We got set up by a mutual friend.His best friend in fact and this mutual friend said since we've been seeing eachother he's seen positive changes in him.I feel good as well.I'm comfortable with him and I feel safe.I don't stress and I just want him to relax with me and see where it goes.He's already doubting any chance before it's even begun.I'm patient and understanding already.Any other suggestions?How can I get him to be less guarded.I want to do this right.I want it to be healthy whether it turns into a relationship later or just friends.I am willing to do anything.It's been so long that i've met a sweet man like him.This PTSD is the only thing that is standing in the way, but because I understand and relate it makes it easier for me to communicate with him and see where he's coming from.He gets in these moods where he shuts down and doesn't want to let anyone in.It's happened twice in the month we've been talking.I back off.I let him come to me when he's ready.Is this correct?Should I be doing something else?