When I say perfect husband I mean that yes I am totally devoted to her. I am there for her and always ask about her day and is there when she needs advice and someone to just hold hands and hug. I never have had a stray eye. As for the guy I showed up at the breakup meeting and was very calm and cool. I asked if he loved my wife and he said no. I asked if he was aware that she had those kind of feelings him and he said he had his suspitions. He lied right in front of her and she took it. Later on that day I texted him and he stated the same things i was not angry in my speech and left it pretty well. She read the text and said that he throw her under the bus. I commented that was when I realized that she had more loyalty to him then me and she did not deny that. He is a mentor for her and keeps saying that he is amazing because of all the good that he does in the community. I cannot deny that either. He seemed to be a very nice man. But again my view is a little tainted now. My wife is going to lunch with his wife today. I decided that I will call him tomorrow and see if he will meet me for coffee or a beer and see if we can find a way from his point of view. Maybe he can come out and tell me what she wants and what he wants and I can tell him what I want. Sounds real weird even from here. But its worth a shot. We have moments that things are just fine like yesterday morning we talked about paying off the car and how long. Our mini trip in two week and all seemed great normal ya know. Then she got a text from him and her mood changed to me and the family. This morning I decided to remove myself and go work out. After that I took my kids shopping and lunch when we got back. She had done all the laundry cleaned out the fridge and payed bills and just a bunch of stuff that needed some attention. If she was just waiting for us to leave so she cauld go out. She would not have done that stuff. Its as if she is bi polar or something. I just need to hold on and have faith.