Thanks for your replies guys!

I have read it allllll over the internet, as well as was taught at university, as well as where I used to work. I thought the whole purpose of therapy was you learn something in the therapy session and then you do some followup things at home and if you don't, then that means you aren't putting in any effort and you will get no positive results. That's what I was always taught anyways. They always said if you are only working on your issues in your session alone, then that is lazy and will get you minimal results (if any).

I don't want to be lazy. I want to be proactive. That's what it comes down to, really. And its a tough one because the direction I want to go in is to decrease my depression. Even if it was just a little bit. however, I am housebound and don't have the ability to wash my clothes/go out/shower/get dressed/etc so I am very limited in what I can do.

I believe my last therapy failed because I was doing the wrong thing outside of the therapy session. But since I don't know what the RIGHT thing is, then I can't change that and my new therapy is doomed to follow the same path. I asked my new T about it and got the textbook "only YOU know what you should be doing" speel, but I do not. So I was asking you guys if you had any ideas.

I'm just sick to death of all this mysterious BS that only *I* am supposed to know. And when I go looking to find answers, people treat me like I'm some sort of idiot for not just magically knowing it myself. If i knew all these answers then I wouldn't be in this predicament. Grrr, Whatever happened to that saying "it is OK to ask for help" ? Why is it all of a sudden so shameful and appalling for me to ask for help? Not you guys, i mean people in general.