Very good!! We can't get better at something unless we try. Part of our learning something is being okay with trying it and not being perfect at it. Getting reciprocal stuff out of people requires choosing the right people. You can't get good stuff out of unhealthy people. You must choose healthy people. When we come from dysfunctional homes, however, healthy people can scare us quite a bit because they can see us, really see us. Unhealthy people, like our dysfunctional families, can't see us so we can hide ourselves and our low self esteem. When you have low self esteem you really don't want to be seen. Healthy people really see us and we feel really uncomfortable because we feel so bad about ourselves. We have to move forward, however, and feel the discomfort and be around the healthy people and work on our self worth. I had to work past all of this and it was really worth it. Working on this with your T is really important.