Got your pm one back atcha.

Me and boundries - at first I didn't understand the concept until a therapist had me stop and think about that day and everything I could remember doing. Then she pointed out some simple things to me for instance when setting down to dinner I had my son go wash his hands. she asked me why I did that and I told her that he liked to dish out his own food on to his plate. he had just come in from outside so his hands were dirty and I didn't want the dirt in the food. She said so the rule is that he washes before dinner because you don't want to be eating dirt with your food? And I said yes.

she then told me that was a boundry. everyone observes sertain rules and conduct for themselves and others from the time they wake up all the way into the night including when they go to bed what plans they have for activities and so on.

Boundries is just a big word for common sense rules that people live by - wash hands before meals, don't watch scarey movies if you don't like scarey movies, don't order something in a restraunt that you know you dont like, going to a doctor when you are sick, taking daily medication if you need it. they are all boundries people live by every day.

the same concept carries over into my on line life I don't read anything I know will upset me, I don't go into chat very often because I know I can't keep up with the conversations if there is more that a couple people in there. I turn off my pms when I need a break, I use the "ignore" icon when needed, I space my on line time around so that not only do I have a chance to be here but I also have time to instant message friends and play some online games like majong and zuma. These are all things that keep me safe healthy and I have a great on line experience with my computer.