Hey Songbird & Daisy
We have put in mega hours working on the whole boundaries thing, with much success, so if we can get onto the road, so can you.

We do alot of writing around this topic, and what worked for us was for each of us to work out where we began and where we ended. What was it that was important to us and how far would we go to keep that intact. Sometimes for us its just a case of putting the hand up and saying STOP, its not the right time, and walking away. When we feel better we go back to the issue thats bothering us and pick it up again.

A thing that really sets us off is feeling overwhelmed in trying to learn something new so we have a rule about respecting the pace that everyone needs to work at.

Another thing that we do is practice making boundaries with friends and we also practice saying NO with friends. For example, we ask our friends to ring us up and ask us out to dinner when they know we have something else on..and we practice saying no....and our friends coax and support us in this.

In regard to 'where do i start' the easiest thing we do, is just take a deep breath, hope like heck and pick something....sometimes its the actual getting started thats harder than the actual work.

You are all so talented and strong. I see that here on the posts that you make. There are probably numerous talents that you haven't even tapped into yet - believe me, my friends, they are there. You have the skills, BELIEVE that you do, cause we have seen them

you're talented and special and important to us.
Storm
PS: if by accident we ever post anything to offend you, we ask that you PM us and tell us, that way we can work on it - don't stew on it or run away cause we would miss you too much