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As stated above, it sounds like this man really should be seeking a therapist. PTSD is nothing someone should have to live with on their own if they are that unstable to hold a relationship. The title "dating" or "relationship" really is not the biggest commitment considering you have been talking for a month but...
I would not say to try and push it any further yet until if or when he gets help. If you care about him and you feel he cares about you, what does a title matter? Perhaps if the infadelity is what you are looking to avoid, perhaps tell him "I'm ok with taking things slow and I'm ok with not using the terms boyfriend and girlfriend but if we are going to be getting serious physically or continue getting closer I would like to know you are not talking to others in this way"?
My boyfriend and I started dating about 3 weeks after we met. The first few days it was just getting to know eachother but after day 5 or so, neither one of us were talking to anyone else. It doesn't mean you're "dating" it just means you are lowering your chances for STDs and such (another good point you could bring up?)
I'm having a little bit of trouble however with a title with my boyfriend so I guess we could say we have somewhat similar situations. He and I have now been dating 2 1/2 years and I'm starting to have religious conflicts with the relationship unless I get that ring I'm gonna have to change the relationship around. But he wants to wait and I'm ok with that to an extent. I was the one originally who said I wanted to wait 8 years before that when I met him. Guess I can't complain now but my moralls are changing so yeah... Best of luck to you and wish me luck on telling my bf he's about to possibly be cut off for a while lol
Take care!
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