I'm sorry this is happening to you!

have you thought about taking a break from him? or breaking up with him? it just sounds a lot like my ex and when the sex dwindled I finally came to the conclusion that he just wasn't that into me. there was always an excuse of why he couldn't see me: he was stressed out at work, at home, etc. etc. I could only take so many excuses before I saw the light.

p.s. don't worry about the porn. that part is totally normal/expected.