I mean this with the utmost of respect, but you need something more in your life than just a romantic relationship to make you feel all warm and fuzzy. I'm convinced that people who put all their emotional 'eggs' into a romantic relationship 'basket' are doomed to disappointment. Everyone, male or female, needs activities and hobbies and accomplishments, and interests outside the romantic partner. There is something wrong if ALL you want is to love someone and to be loved. I'm no doctor or therapist but I call it love sickness, where the person, being so busy swirling in a lovesick stew, doesn't have to focus on any other area of his or her life, because she or he is soooo busy hung up on romantic love. I don't doubt my ex told people I was controlling; I would have said I was trying to make sure we paid the bills so the gas and water and electricity weren't turned off. Even if your ex wives truly underwent dramatic personality shifts and turned into evil queens, then that is even more a good reason to take time, step back from romance, and get the rest of your life in order, because you'd want to ask yourself why you were either fooled by these shady women into marrying them, or why you chose people so unstable they underwent these horrifying personality shifts. No one can use and abuse your caring nature unless you allow them. I hope this gives you some food for thought and helps give you the courage to go into your next relationship as a full half of the relationship, instead of the pawn of some manipulative female. Facebook might not be a good place for you right now. Courage!