I am sorry all of this is happening to you, athena2011, and I'm frustrated that our society allows things like this to happen all the time. My son's father never paid a cent of child support, at one point had the nerve to suggest he could get alimony from me because I had an education--I paid for that education entirely with student loans because he would not pay child support! He had all sorts of tricks for avoiding it--he left the state first of all and then managed to injure himself so he could go on disability. Meanwhile I now am paying back 120,000 dollars with my current spouse helping, and it is not his debt and of course it causes much tension and financial hardship even though we have degrees and jobs. So sorry! Because I just used this reply to rant. I was sparked because I am so fed up with this happening to women and children. I hope you keep feeling better--it sounds as though you did a wonderful, loving, and amazing job managing the kids the other day and evening. I know you are a wonderful mother. Deep inside somewhere, the kids understand that you are suffering and yet loving them and doing your best. Being a mother is terribly difficult and I commend you for all you are doing. And thanks again for responding to my first post.