No disrespect, KazzaX (and I haven't read all the posts, just got to this one), I think that your perception differs from the reality of the situation. I did not read of the responses to this point as insinuating anything or saying that you are making anyone's life more difficult.

Putting everything on the table as you requested, I think you are still with the wrong type of therapist for your immediate issue. I think you need some quick, practical help at this point and you need to see someone who specializes in CBT.

I was at a point where I had tried literally EVERY antidepressant available and had seen a psychiatrist who wanted to move to ECT. I quit therapy and drugs at that point and just tried to accept that THIS was how I felt and this was just how my life was always going to be.

After about two years of that, my mother in law kept insisting that I didn't have to feel that way forever, and kept insisting I go to her T. Insisted to the point where she said she would pay for it. I went to her T (now my T) who specializes in CBT. It sucked at first and he gave me HOMEWORK of all the god-awful things. Within a few months however, the depression was dramatically better.

Please think about looking for a CBT person, or ask your T about CB techniques.