Any advice on how financial issues in a second marriage with children on both sides, but no children together in current marriage, can be addressed? My child has graduated and is working, happily adjusting to the real world. My husband's 2 children are 17 and 14, the eldest staying with us. During my child's schooling I worked and supported her and contributed to the domestic expenses as well. I maintained my own vehicle, medical insurance, all other personal expenses. We have had this 'double income/double budget' kind of scenario for the past 14 years. For the past 5 years we have lived abroad and I have not contributed a steady income. From time to time I had a semi-permanent job and contributed somewhat but my husband has been the main financial support over the past 5 years. Since I am not earning my own salary anymore we have been having major financial arguments. It seems the stress of being the sole earner is harder for him to accept than I thought. For the past 2 years he has given me a personal monthly allowance. I use it sometimes to beautify the home, an air ticket for a loved one, gifts, holiday money, saving etc. It is not a huge amount and I wish I did not have to take it but still am grateful for the money and the little bit of independence it buys me. At times he makes me feel guilty about my allowance but then he contradicts himself by splashing out on an expensive car but denying us the luxury of a second cheaper car. He is only willing to help financially towards a second car once I can contribute as well. This financial war is very difficult for me to come to terms with as I feel I left a career, country, loved ones and life behind to follow him and support his career. Once I start working again I am expected to contribute financially to our budget. Which I don't mind but then certain domestic tasks must also be shared. (Well that issue will open another can of worms.) So I suppose the underlying issues are more severe than just money....... This debate could go on forever and I think I have already exceeded my 15 word limit :0)