Welcome seeking.

Wow... you are in the midst of a very common problem. Three ideas: marital counseling, financial advisor, and personal protection. The last is by opening credit in your own name, to build your own credit... make sure you take your name off all of his accounts, and advertise that you are no longer responsible for his debts... etc. You never know what they have planned. I would hate to see you left high and dry if he refuses to treat you as an equal.

<font color=blue> Character is who you are when no one is looking </font color=blue>