Actually, Lido, I'm a lot less tolerant of both the porn and the foreign houseguest. I actually think the discovery of porn on his computer is a big trouble sign, and also his preoccupation with this foreign visitor. Bottom line here is that your needs are not being met, emotionally or physically, and your gut instinct is that something is not right. My own intuition and experience tell me that something indeed is not right. Women, as a rule, put up with so much more than is necessary before moving on with our lives. Ask yourself, is this what you want, deserve? I think not.