You're definitely not crazy! If this make you crazy, I'm more than crazy too!! For T1 one, I'm pretty sure what you remember is right; she probably just forgot how she reacted after a few months...

For the room stuff, I've been with my t for more than a year and cannot even tell you what color is his office (it's something like blue/gray??, but don't know exactly which color). I remember one day after something like 6 months, I asked him if he had moved the angle of the chair I was in (I was pretty sure he did cause I had the impression I could not see a paint in the same angle than I use to) and he gave me a strange look and just said... well, it would be pretty hard since it's screwed there!! ha!ha!