Hello Patricia, I handle this a bit differently now that mine is getting older. I'm past the point where I feel various punishments will have an impact, trying to focus instead on the basic consequence of being disrespectful of others. When he gets that way, as calmly but directly as I can, I tell him I simply will not deal with him (which includes giving him anything or speaking with him at all) until he changes his demeanor and attitude to one of respect and decency. With PTSD, I can't stand the yelling, so this kind of disengagement helps me and I think helps him learn that people will just not deal with him eventually if he is rude or inconsiderate. Besides, the last time I tried to take a privilege away from him, he simply told me he didn't care and would just do something else, which I obviously could not avoid. So, I keep my boundardies calmly and clearly where they are and wait for him to change on a daily basis. It seems to be working.

Hope these perspectives help.

Be well,

mtd