I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. He is in the process of moving in with me from another town. Currently he has all his mail sent to my address, but he has told me he is going to get a PO Box number as he doesnt want his name associated with mine he also told me he wanted to have his own apartment as a back up plan so he can go and get away. He has associations with some shaddy people and states he doesnt want to bring them to our home and this is all being done for my protection.

I do have access to his social network and email accounts and he does get a lot of notes from women from his past and some he has recently met. He is a big flirt. I have questioned his actions and he is stating I have nothing to worry about that I'm being insecure. He also is in constant communications with his soon to be ex-wife. All of this behaviour is very unsettling to me, making me question whether I can trust him.

How do I handle this situation and look beyond his rather strange request?