there is a way to clarity. It is this. if it is a relationship with no
strings that you want, and if it is a relationship with no string that he
wants. then....
(by relationship : doing what you want to do, because you want to do it)
the attachment factor is the issue.
Drop him like a rock. tell him you don't feel you need or want to see him for
now, or for the future, maybe later. who knows, in a week, a month
or 3 months. Tell him you want to take a break from talking on the
phone. After all, this is just for kicks 'booty calls'.
Have no contact with him for oh.... 3 weeks. See what action he
takes. If he comes running to you, asking for 'something more'.
then you have your answer. If you don't want 'something more' from
your position (at the beginning of this experiment, then don't
pursue anything with him. You are in different places and
he and you will get hurt. If you find that you both want just
casual (SAFE) sex, then continue. You will know you are on the same page
because he will not call you all in a froth to reconnect, but saying he
needs you so much. If that happens, trouble.

Don't listen to his words. watch his actions and intent behind his
looks, relations, and behavior.
Some people do not know how to commit, ...my ex- for instance.

Sandy (pecan cookie)