Open Eyes has dome valid points, dome of which I've lived thru. I do agree that it may be time to consider "you." You've never needed friends, yet they're an integral part of life. While our families are most important, we do not exist in a vacuum of family alone. Your wife is experiencing that & perhaps you should as well.

Whether counseling would be positive depends on you two, if she is open to it, as well as yourself.

From this vantage point, it appears she's been taking care of business - the children & running the household. You've provided the means. It can happen that a woman not fulfilled (and that's not aimed at you) within herself, having found a new avenue to do so, can now see this mentor more significant than money & weekend visits. One can always find money & she seems adept at the finances of the family.

Consider stepping outside this pattern & do learn what she is willing to teach, show you. Develop friendships, as they can play an important role when it comes to emotional support.

I don't hear a lot of you initiating conversations or of so, what is the response? Are you asking her questions & are they aimed at helping her share her feelings about the marriage and you? Has there been any talk about her sense of commitment to the family, her needs outside the family and yours?

I do know that compromise is always part of the picture but being a doormat is not.

Have you ever attempted the "repeat what you hear" technique? She says to you, ABC & you then say, You mean you feel like ABC? You'd be surprised that you could get it wrong & then she'd repeat it again, as would you until it's clear what's bring said.

Just a few ideas....