Hi all,

A friend of mine lost her adult son a couple weeks ago. It is horrible worst nightmare for any parent. He was in late 20's it's just horrible. I'm trying to be a good friend, be there for her to talk to, taking her out places.

But somehow I've turned into her main support person and I don't think I can handle it. I have bipolar, 2 teens with bipolar, trying to keep my job and my house.

And I find her needing me and clinging, and getting texts and several calls while i'm at my workplace. We spend at least 1-2 hours on the phone daily, mostly talking about her boyfriend who is trying to break up with her. Sometimes she is drunk and yelling about how this guy is treating her.

I feel like i'm on the edge of either mania or depression, becoming so irritable that I'm afraid I might start yelling at her that I don't want to hear another word about this stupid man she's been dating. And about how he treats her poorly, is not here for her when she is grieving, yet she goes over and sleeps with him any time he calls her if he's horny. And i want to remind her she has 2 other children who are grieving the loss of their brother and she's spending her energy on this man.

How can I help her through her grieving and stay sane