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Jan 18, 2012, 07:33 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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First of all, you'd actually be doing her a FAVOR if you told her that you WILL NOT talk to her when she's been drinking, and hang up.  You can NOT have a conversation with a drunk. Besides, she won't remember much of it later anyway. So just don't bother.
Secondly, remind her when she's sober that this so-called "boyfriend" is just using her, and she's having enough trouble grieving without having to deal with a creep. He's actually causing her MORE grief. Tell her to dump him, and give herself some time to grieve before she looks for someone else.
And remember --- while I know you want to be a good friend, and to be there for her -- you have YOUR problems too and you cannot add to them by having a clingy, co-dependent person around.  You may have to screen your calls until you feel up to talking to her. Don't feel guilty about it either. We're talking about YOUR health! God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee
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