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Jan 18, 2012, 07:59 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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You are so right! Both my parents were alcoholics, and all 4 of us girls were abused by being ignored. We got absolutely NO love, NO hugs, NO pats on the back for getting good grades, etc. No, we weren't beated, cause in their eyes we weren't even THERE. 
Unfortunately I became an alcoholic myself -- something I swore I wouldn't do. I drank for over 20 years, and heavily. And BOY did I play the victim. LOL If it wasn't my parents fault, it was my husbands. He was abusive too, ya see.
I'd finally had enough and went to AA and got sober. There I learned that I was NOT the victim -- that I had choices!!! What a concept!  Who would have thought?!! LOL And they also told me I had to make amends! YIKES Well, I did -- and it worked out great.
Today I'm no victim -- I'm responsible for my actions. I can choose what I do or don't do --- not just with alcohol, but with everything in life. I'm also disabled now, but I HATE pity and won't accept it! 
It just takes me longer to do things. 
And yes I suffer from Depression, but with medications and my own determination I can fight that too! I'm Irish & stubborn.
Thanks Callmebj for a great post! Hugs, Lee 
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