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Originally Posted by 3rdTimesTheCharm
It would be awful if Ts took on our pain as their own. That would mean that if I tell T that this xyz thing happened, it would be like I was doing it to him. If he maintains his separation/distance, then I don't have to feel like a perp. If that makes any sense.
Anne
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Completely makes sense. He says one of the most common questions he gets asked by friends/family is how can you take listening to everyone's problems all day? He says a T who is unable to keep that separation/distinction in their mind won't be a T for long. He says he's actually gotten so good at it that when his girlfriend asks him about his day, he often has virtually no memory of it. Of course once he thinks about it for a minute, it comes back, but he is extremely efficient at compartmentalizing. He says it is really a necessity. Every hour he is working with a different client with different issues. He has to be able to separate it all out so that he can give each client his full attention.