Before I entered therapy at age 19 I had absolutely no conscious memories of my while life from age birth to 19. All I had to go on was a nightmare that I could not remember upon waking up in panic attacks, and family stories of family get togethers. My family would all be sitting around and someone would say "remember when..." And I had no idea what they were talking about. It was working with my past and present 19 different therapy professionals over a course of 20 plus years.

Most therapists work on the "today" relationships and problems before they work on putting the past together. working on the past issues is not going to do anything but make the person worse if they do not have the skills needed to keep themselves on track befor working on the harder stuff. Once your therapist sees you are actively using grounding tools and so on so you won't become suicidal and so on when working on the harder stuff she will start getting into the abuse stuff you went through.

A therapist job is to help you work out things so that your present life and function level is better then when you started therapy with them. Their job is not to make you worse by jumping into that abuse situations without the tools needed to take care of those situations for yourself.

Take care.