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Originally Posted by unhappyguy
hi, Jiles. you sound like you are a perfectly normal guy. i think you should consider seeing a therapist to help with guilt issues.
also, i do not agree with labeling yourself as "damaged goods." you are 100% straight as you have no sexual attraction to men. you experimented and learned it's not for you - confirming you are heterosexual. you have no intention of repeating your youthful curiosity. and, you now have a wife who you love very much and who loves very much. please stay in the present. what is past has passed. your marriage gives you a very very healthy and happy sexual present. please stay in the present and let the past lie.
i wish you all the best.
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That is absolutley the best advice I have heard in a long time.
It is okay to grieve ... but, at the end of the reflection, we can mourn our losses or celebrate what we've gained... either way... we can do both.. we just have to make a choice. and it seems you have a wonderful, forgiving wife and new, healthy relationship to look forward too...
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A bird doesn't sing because it has all the answers, it sings because it has a song.
Maya Angelou.
so sing. Jazz, sing. --jazzy123456
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