thanks everyone... i really do like him loads but i have this ever present worry over my head. its like it with every relationship i get into. i have this fear built into me and i let it rule over me. i had this with my ex and thats the reason i left him. then i had another short relationship since then and the same feelings overcame me and i ended that too. i hate being single and i been seeking someone like this man for 2 years now. yet when he comes along i get all wound up. its really doing my head in
i just wish i could be worry free and let things unwind naturally but its like i have something in the back of my head telling me i cant do it. so this fear consumes me and i let it sabotage my chances of having a good relationship.

i dont know if this stems from my childhood and how I was raised.

i read up about the 4 different styles of attachment and i am classic example of anxious-avoidment.

how can I change this??