Hi,

My counselor is moving away in a couple of weeks. He referred me to a new counselor. We met on Friday. I don't think it is going to work out. I am so upset. And now he is leaving and there isn't time to work out another referral, and there won't be another counselor to talk to when I am in a crisis - which I will be when he leaves. I'm sorry but this is going to be really hard when he goes.

I don't even know what he was thinking when he referred me to her. This is hard to write about. He knows I had really terrible abuse by women, and I can't talk to a woman counselor, at least not at this stage in my life - maybe if I grow and heal more in a few years or something it might be possible but not now. This is a woman counselor. He explained more to me yesterday. He decided to refer me to somebody who is 100% opposite from him. He thought somehow this would help (????) in the transition. I don't know how that helps at all. I am not a match with her in the slightest. Even if she were a male, we would not be able to work together. I have no idea what to do now, and at the moment, I'm even totally confused with my own counselor for making this referral. He's been such an excellent counselor all this time and I have zero idea what he was thinking. Zero. He had to know this referral would fail. So I have no idea what to think any more. And with only a short amount of time left (part of which he will be gone) I think there is no time to work out another referral. I just feel lost.

I guess I think if somehow I were a counselor making the referral, if I had any choice about it....this relationship had been working so well, I'd try to find another counselor who had at least some of the same concepts and ideas, rather than somebody who was the exact opposite. Does that sound logical? Or am I just insane? No two counselors are ever going to be identical, but I can't see the referral he made being logical at all. I just don't understand. I feel really upset.

Thanks for listening.

Take care,
ErinBear