When you're not reay you're not ready. Period. I've often wondered what I would do if something happened to my husband. Would I date again? No. Probably not. My husband has been through all of this part of being borderline, and bipolar....and I wouldn't want to have the rug pulled out from under me. The whole dating stuff..it makes me crazy. That whole time sets off all of my triggers. I can't stand the game playing etc. I would have been married once....and after years of therapy after my husband's passing...I think I'd just feel....retired. So to speak. Plus I feel like it would be a disrespect to my children. I just don't think I could do it again.