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Originally Posted by dubblemonkey
it's been a complicated arrangement for me...I would do absolutely anything for the person to keep the person (sounds like a possession or even worse like a hostage, yikes)....and then do absolutely everything to push them away. The last one being the most successful of the two.
.."loving someone to death....and hating someone to death"
theres that black and white again
some smart dude once told me about bpd ..."you don't have a girlfriend mate...you take a hostage, but you don't threaten their life you threaten your own"
irk! ugh! bleh!
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You expressed this so well. It's so true. And so sad. And, as you say - now that we know this, we purposely isolate ourselves. Personally, I find isolation intolerable so inevitably I break down and get into another dysfunctional relationship. And I'm not even freakin' divorced yet! But then again, that's just another problem to add into the mix.