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Trying to "fix" this situation isn't really the best idea. Let her know that you are there no matter what she chooses, that you just want her to be happy and are 100% supportive of her decisions. Perhaps recommending she go to therapy for this depression would be a great start if she isn't already in therapy.
It sounds like she didn't make a bad decision, they decided to see other people right? So this "friend" really has no right or reason to be so hard on her.
She will have to make the decision on her own to leave, and unfortunately if you try to persuade her to do so, it will likely backfire on you and she will get even closer to him. My suggestion other than therapy and supporting her would be to very casually bring up fine points, and I mean as casual as you can, about what she really deserves and that you wish she had a man that loved and respected her. Very gently show her that you believe there are better people out there. But I do caution you on this one, if she sees what you're doing she may think you're stepping out of line trying to ruin the relationship and this may drive her closer to him. Perhaps just do small things like wake up and make her breakfast in bed and tell her "One day you'll find a man that does this for you every day, until than I'm here for ya" with a nudge wink or something. Just let her know that you think she deserves the best and maybe she will start to believe it eventually too?
Hope this helps and doesn't make things worse... Take care and good luck, it's not easy trying to help your children when they're grown, they can be so hard headed lol almost like they were a teenager again, almost
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